Being non judgemental is a myth. We all judge people every now and then and yet claim that we don’t. We talk about others in their absence and comment on them. Sometimes, we appreciate their conduct. Sometimes, we criticise them. This is nothing but being judgemental. Even if we don’t make our observation public, we form an opinion about them in our own mind. In a way, this is a natural phenomenon. There is nothing right and wrong about it. The problem starts when we are biased with our own thoughts and try to change others. Yes, I judge you. What about you?
It depends upon you. Whether you become a leader or stay backstage is a choice you make. If you decide to perform, you will be subject to close scrutiny and criticism but with time you will learn and become a crowd puller. Those who threw stones will be in queue to shake hands with you. Life gives you opportunity. You have to seize it and walk upto the stage. Embarrassment and criticism is a cost you pay to refine your act. The payoff is far more. You are made to lead. Come forward and take your place.
Try this. This is effortless and gives extraordinary results. Trust people and deal with them as a lifelong partner. A few of them will not come upto your expectations. They will try to take advantage of your trust. Cut your ties with them and find their replacement. Also, don’t try to squeeze the other person. Leave the juice on the table so that are motivated to work for you. When you apply these principles, you will grow at breakneck speed. You will also have a lot of free time. The key to growth is few lifelong relationships rather than many fragile ones.
The real power of ‘Giving’ is in remaining anonymous. There is no need to highlight the sacred act of helping someone. The power of giving reduces when we try to encash it by garnering appreciation for our deed. There could be logic and justification to make our contribution public but it is the intent behind that matters. If we do it for the claps, we become the beneficiary and in that case the whole purpose of giving loses its essence. Practice silent giving. Once you do it a few times, you will feel like becoming the recipient.
I am bestowed with power and with it comes responsibility. I want peace but they are adamant on war. I am applying restrain but they are testing my resilience. If I lose control they will all burn to ashes. I am giving them opportunity to correct their act but it seems they have taken it as my weakness. They hit me and think they are smart. They don’t understand; if I touch them, they will vanish. I think it’s time to teach them a lesson. They have crossed the boundary again and from now on their land will become a part of our own.
I like attention. I know how to steal the limelight. I like my name to be called first. I want to sit in the front row. I push people to give me a favorable treatment. When others look at me with their eyebrows raised, I get a kick. All of this doesn’t come easy. Sometimes, I have to cook things up. A few times, I disguised my actual personality. At times, I even manipulated people to highlight myself. At the moment it’s all going as planned. Who cares about what is right and wrong. It’s the branding that matters.
I am holding it back. I am not sure how long I can keep it inside. They won’t understand what I am going through. I tried to explain before. No one paid attention. I was hurt even more. Not that I wanted their sympathy but I expected them to have empathy. I was wrong. It’s a selfish world. And so, I decided to hide it; my feelings. Now I fake my smile. I weep inside but I laugh out so loud that no one can hear my cry. At times, it’s difficult and I want to share it with someone. But I find no one I can confide. I have now closed the doors. They can’t come in and hurt me anymore.
The big question to ask is ‘Who am I’? You may convince me with your beautiful words but that is not going to help you. The important thing is to answer yourself. Don’t give excuses about your limitations or I will give examples of many who faced bigger challenges than you and still transformed their lives. It’s time you take control of your life. It’s time to set yourself free from everything that stops you. Don’t let the comfort of life hold you back from using your true potential. If my words inspire you, you need to pay me back by making your life an inspiration for many.
Eat less, exercise more. Read more, talk less. Love more, hate less. Sleep more, worry less. Commit less, act more. Inspire more, criticize less. Acquire less, share more. Spend less, learn more. Fight less, laugh more. Appreciate more, complain less. Life is all about knowing what to do more and what to cut off. Once you know it, it’s all about doing it.
Water finds its level on its own. Similarly, your creation will find the audience on its own merit. If the product is not useful, no matter how much promotion is done; it will eventually fail. So, put your entire energy to produce something remarkable. Don’t apply shortcuts. Don’t cut corners. Strategies and marketing can give short term results. Quality and usefulness are self sustaining in the long run. Forget your own benefit. Create something which will outlive you.
