I am not sure if I am alone in this or many others feel the same. I am happy with who I am. I am happy with what I do. I live a peaceful life. There are no regrets. Still, something bothers me once in a while. Am I on the right track? Am I doing enough? Should I aim higher? Can I do better? Is it ok to take it easy in life? Most of these questions appear when I see people around me struggling to do more and achieve more. I wonder where will it all end. How far one should go? What should be the benchmark? I don’t have the answers. Do you know?
People want success but not willing to go beyond their comfort zone. People want to live long but lazy when it comes to doing exercises. People want to become rich but have no control over their expenses. People want to have a good family life but keep busy and unable to spend quality time with near and dear ones. People want to be lucky but they don’t realize it is hard work that gets them in front of the queue. There are no free lunches. If you want anything, go get it.
The benefit of reading starts slow but compounds at a massive rate when continued for months, years and decades. Even an hour a day over a lifetime can beat just about anyone else in the world who is not a regular reader. It may seem quite boring in the beginning but with time one is able to connect the dots and it gets addictive. One problem with continuous reading is; your network with whom you interact diminishes substantially because majority of people are unable to debate at the same level. Readers are simple people but the world fears them.
The recognition is tilted towards those who create wealth with their work. The society is biased in this aspect. Not that this group who become millionaires and billionaires do not deserve accolades but we also need to recognize the value of several other category of people who contribute in a big way through other activities. Mother’s, social workers, care givers, teachers, housewife’s, and so many others. A little more sensitiveness will go a long way in creating the much required balance. Let’s give due credit to everyone who deserve it.
It is quite surprising. We do things we know we shouldn’t do. Our mind says no but the lure of short term benefits clouds our judgement. What is even worse is that sometimes, such calls prove good and no damage is done. This experience blinds us during future decision making. When we go against our inner gut feeling, we pray it ends well. Many times it does. This only prepares the roadmap for bigger mistakes and consequences. Unless curbed, one bad call can throw our lives in a tailspin. Pay attention to your inner voice. It mostly protects you from troubles.
To find time is an art. To take rest is a choice. To feel free is a state of mind. There is no end to work. Things will keep requiring your attention. The more you pay attention, the more you will be bothered. Everyday seems like tomorrow will be better. It is not to be. We get deeper and deeper into the chaos. There is only one solution. To let go of things. Nothing much will be lost and a lot of peace and time will be gained. End of the day, we need to ask ourselves; we want to remain busy or find a little bit of freedom.
Some people find their calling early. They also work hard and are off to a flying start. They become the young icons. Some keep growing and achieve tremendous success in life. They truly deserve it. Contrary to this, some are late starters. May be because of not finding the right path, laziness or not focussed early on. It doesn’t mean they can’t catch up with the early flyers or even get past them. Time is a great leveler. It’s just that they have to work harder for the lost time. Everyone is different and everyone has a shot. Don’t judge early who are late.
When we are young adults, most of us take life for granted. We pay little attention to developing a skill. Fun is all we want. The effect is felt after a decade or two. We see some of our peers and wonder how they went ahead in life. In frustration, we sometimes call them lucky. But their success is not a fluke. They were slogging hard when others were not. Having understood this, we try that our children maintain a balance. But they don’t. It’s difficult. It comes from within. And the cycle is repeated.
When you are on your way to create something big and meaningful, you will also face a lot of criticism and hindrance. Many people will pull you down, not because you are bad but because they can’t see one among them growing. Don’t stop. Keep a watch but ignore all of it. Attention is what they want which you must not give. Also, when you set out for something big, you are bound to flip and fall a few times. Don’t bother. Stand up again. Remember, people standing in your way today will be the same who will clap for you when you reach the finish line.
I do it secretly. I follow few people closely but I never tell them. I watch their every move. Frankly, I have a learnt a lot from them but I am a little shy of acknowledging it in public. Ironically, some of them look upon me for guidance but in private I know, it’s me who he is a bigger beneficiary of the relationship. Sometimes, I feel guilty that I keep it to myself. They deserve to know that they have inspired me. The only way to overcome this guilt is to inspire many others, silently. I am on my way.