Contribution is more satisfying than accumulation. Still, we spend our entire life accumulating wealth, power, recognition and what not. We say we don’t care what people think about us. Yet, we do everything possible to attract their attention. Everyone says we should live in the present. Still, we spend most of our time thinking about the future. We preach that good things take time to yield. Yet, in practice we apply shortcut to everything. We all know that life is fragile. Still, we live as if we are immortals.
Everyone wants to be different but do things everyone does. If that be the case, results are not going to be different. Now, doing different things just for the sake of it is also not going to make a difference. Then what’s the solution? How to get noticed? Well, one way to attract attention is to stop giving attention to the world. It may sound simple but it is not. It requires huge focus and concentration. Once you lose the interest in other people’s interest in you, they will find you interesting.
There is no way you can pretend long what you are not. If your thoughts are not clean they will reflect in your words sooner or later. If you fake your appreciation for people, they would soon figure it out. If you laugh out loud in public though you feel pain inside, you will have to cry when you are alone. If you show off by spending more than you can afford, people will shortly come to see the hole in your clothes. Be natural. It will forever be in trend. What you pretend is borrowed. What you are is yours.
If you are not happy with your life you can make a wish to become someone else. But before that you must peep into the life of that person as a whole and not just be influenced by the outside glitter. Once you know inside out about the person you will most likely change your decision. Everyone struggles with some part of their life. You will eventually choose shortcomings of your own life rather than accepting someone else’s. There is no fun living without challenges. The struggle of your own life is sometimes the biggest motivation to live a complete life.
The biggest question nobody could ever answer is how much money we need to live a happy life. It remains an illusion even today. It will remain a mystery forever. We have to find an answer to this ourselves. Making money is not a crime but becoming obsessed with it dangerous. It actually kills the dream rather than fulfilling it. A balance is required. Find that balance. When you think you have enough, have courage to quit chasing it further. Work is fun when you enjoy it. It becomes a liability when it becomes a duty.
Champions are not lucky. They fully deserve their place. When things go in their favor at crucial moments it is not an act of some invisible force but their years of practice to achieve that mastery. When situation demands, they raise their game to a level which seems humanly impossible. They are lethal on the court but show great respect for their opponents when they lose a few. It is easy to criticize them when they falter but difficult to match their class. Champions are not lucky. They were climbing the mountain alone when others were sitting indoors.
If you are an expert in your subject, use this gift to serve the mankind. That’s the best use of it. Money and recognition are by-products. Let these things not be the focus. Be humble about your skills. Consider it to be a blessing and don’t let this accomplishment get into your head. Treat fellow human beings with respect and empathy. Create more experts who can carry on your work after you. Your contribution to the world will be gauged from the fact about how many lives you touched. Make the count big.
No matter how focussed you are, you will get bouts of frustration in between. It will seem life is going direction less. You will question your own judgement of the life you have chosen. Everything will seem useless. Nothing will interest you. Negativity will engulf you. It will seem that nothing will fall in place. If you ever go through this phase, relax. It’s not a serious condition. It shall pass. Tomorrow will be different. You will wake up motivated. You will have a new leash of life. Everything will be back to normal. It will happen again. It will go away again.
To leave a legacy creates so much stress in life. The urge to be remembered after death takes a toll while we are living. It can’t be more amusing that many of us spend our entire lives in search of something which will make us immortal after death. No one accepts this but everyone wants it. The effort to live a perfect life in itself is a waste of life. Instead, living a fulfilling life every day is a payback to the creator of life. A complete life has a lot of imperfect moments. As surprising as it gets, we are missed only when we don’t miss anything while we are alive.
It’s natural for parents to be worried about kids. They want to protect them from forming bad habits. They want them to find a direction in life. They want them to build a perfect life for themselves. Nothing wrong with it. However, there are no fixed rules of parenting. Effort, attention, guidance is definitely needed but over possessiveness and obsession may backfire. Rather, we should help our children form their own opinion. Make them strong. Love them unconditionally. Trust them. Let them know they have your support and mostly, they will surpass your wildest imagination.