It is quite surprising. We do things we know we shouldn’t do. Our mind says no but the lure of short term benefits clouds our judgement. What is even worse is that sometimes, such calls prove good and no damage is done. This experience blinds us during future decision making. When we go against our inner gut feeling, we pray it ends well. Many times it does. This only prepares the roadmap for bigger mistakes and consequences. Unless curbed, one bad call can throw our lives in a tailspin. Pay attention to your inner voice. It mostly protects you from troubles.
To find time is an art. To take rest is a choice. To feel free is a state of mind. There is no end to work. Things will keep requiring your attention. The more you pay attention, the more you will be bothered. Everyday seems like tomorrow will be better. It is not to be. We get deeper and deeper into the chaos. There is only one solution. To let go of things. Nothing much will be lost and a lot of peace and time will be gained. End of the day, we need to ask ourselves; we want to remain busy or find a little bit of freedom.
Some people find their calling early. They also work hard and are off to a flying start. They become the young icons. Some keep growing and achieve tremendous success in life. They truly deserve it. Contrary to this, some are late starters. May be because of not finding the right path, laziness or not focussed early on. It doesn’t mean they can’t catch up with the early flyers or even get past them. Time is a great leveler. It’s just that they have to work harder for the lost time. Everyone is different and everyone has a shot. Don’t judge early who are late.
When we are young adults, most of us take life for granted. We pay little attention to developing a skill. Fun is all we want. The effect is felt after a decade or two. We see some of our peers and wonder how they went ahead in life. In frustration, we sometimes call them lucky. But their success is not a fluke. They were slogging hard when others were not. Having understood this, we try that our children maintain a balance. But they don’t. It’s difficult. It comes from within. And the cycle is repeated.
When you are on your way to create something big and meaningful, you will also face a lot of criticism and hindrance. Many people will pull you down, not because you are bad but because they can’t see one among them growing. Don’t stop. Keep a watch but ignore all of it. Attention is what they want which you must not give. Also, when you set out for something big, you are bound to flip and fall a few times. Don’t bother. Stand up again. Remember, people standing in your way today will be the same who will clap for you when you reach the finish line.
I do it secretly. I follow few people closely but I never tell them. I watch their every move. Frankly, I have a learnt a lot from them but I am a little shy of acknowledging it in public. Ironically, some of them look upon me for guidance but in private I know, it’s me who he is a bigger beneficiary of the relationship. Sometimes, I feel guilty that I keep it to myself. They deserve to know that they have inspired me. The only way to overcome this guilt is to inspire many others, silently. I am on my way.
I once met a man. He worked twelve hours a day. I asked him. Don’t you get tired? Do you get time for other things in life? What about your hobbies? His response was something to learn. He said, I enjoy what I do. Even after my day is over, I feel fresh because my work is not something I despise. I adore it. My work gives me happiness and don’t you think that the purpose of life is to be happy. Does it matter from where happiness comes? Everyday when I wake up, I am excited to go to work. What a perspective. It got me thinking, who are we to judge how others should live their life. Whatever be the source, if the end result is happiness; all is well.
I was thinking. Life is good and who is responsible for it. Is it me? Totally? The answer came out differently. I took a dive into my past. There were a few who compromised a good part of their life to make me stand on my feet. I also remember clearly the person who spoke those golden words of motivation when I was on the brink of giving up on my dream. How I can forget the man who pushed me on to the big stage despite my fear and the rest became history. And with deep humility, I realized; my life is a gift of many known and unknown people. And my head bows down with respect to all of them in acknowledgement of their help, support and compromise. A big thank you to all.
I want to sleep. There is a lot of work to do but I am tired. There are some deadlines to meet. It keeps me awake. If I complete my assignments on time, I expect to get a good raise. May be a decent promotion too. This is all I wanted in life. Growth. And I have grown in my profession over the years. I still want more. And so I must not sleep. Like everyday, I defer my timely sleep for one more day. Years have passed. I don’t remember when I slept enough. I thought I shall take rest after a few years. That never happened. I desperately want to sleep but I can’t. And I convince myself; one more day.
Many of us have a habit of interrupting others while they speak. It is rude. As a courtesy, we should allow people to complete what they have to say. You may be more intelligent than them. You may hold a bigger position. You may like to dominate the discussions. Still, listening with intent is a sign of respect we give to the speaker. Imagine how you feel when someone cuts you off. Also, when you talk, you don’t learn anything. It is only through listening, we get new perspectives. If you want others to listen to you, give your ears to them first. And then, when you start, there will be pin drop silence.