Nobody says this but many feel it. Many times, when we hear good news concerning other people in our circle, we are actually not as excited as show it. We over exaggerate our happiness and response. We start thinking; why God is kinder on them than us? Why luck is not coming our way? If you feel this way once in a while, it’s alright. You are normal. It is not a good feeling to accept it. Take your time. Chew it. Only then you will overcome such thoughts. The first step to solve a problem is to find the problem. Sometimes, a problem is good. It gives you a reason to find a solution.
A few friends. A good health. Someone to love. A happy family. A peaceful sleep. A challenging job. Blessings of parents. Smile on face. Old music. A companion for life. A goal to live for. The list is endless. It is difficult to choose. We want everything. The problem is; some of it we can manage but ome of it depends on fate. No matter how many things we have, if we miss one thing, we blow it out of proportion. Nobody’s life is complete. We need to find peace in what we have. A little less than perfection is called life. Live with it.
One of the desires of all human beings is to make a difference in other people’s lives. Although it may not be very lucrative financially, its psychological value probably has its weight in gold. If you too have this feeling, achieving it is not so difficult. All it requires is to focus on your own life. Observe your words, actions, attitude, and routine. If you honestly think you lead a good life, people will start following you. They will get inspired by you. Slowly but surely, you will have a mass following. At this point, you must not get carried away and stop doing what brought you here. At all times, your focus should be inward, not outward. Long story short, be inspired by your own life to inspire the world.
There is one thing I haven’t been able to overcome. To not expect from others what I don’t do myself. I may have conditions but I expect unconditional love. At times, I may mix water in the milk but I expect others to be absolutely fair to me. I expect others to provide the proof whereas, I try to take the benefit of the doubt. When I think about all this, I hate myself. The worse thing is that I can’t share it with others. While this double standard still hurts me, I am improving with time. I examine myself more often. It is not easy but one day, I hope I will be able to do what I expect from others.
They didn’t tell me on my face but the message was clear; I don’t have it what it takes. Sometimes, they said words of motivation to me but they didn’t mean it. They had already concluded that I won’t amount to much in life. It was tough to withstand this behavior of people around me. I will admit, it did hurt and I did feel low at times. But I want to tell you, the verdict of these people mean nothing. Years later, when I did amount to something, the same set of people boasted around the society; I knew he shall do well. The end word is, you become what you think you can. If that be the case, thing big and rate yourself high.
Some people crib all through their life. They only talk about their own problems. It becomes a habit. They don’t even realize it. They seek sympathy with authority. They demand it. They consider it as their right. Then there is another set of people who are just the opposite. They are the givers. They never talk about their own issues. They help others. They provide support. They absorb other people’s pain. Which side you are, depends a lot on your upbringing, society and culture. Still, it’s better to be a giver rather than a taker.
We all feel helpless and weak at times. However, If you are still alive, it means you have beaten the odds till now. In our daily course of life we just don’t realise how versatile we are and how much resilience we have. Yet, every challenge seems to threaten us. Sometimes, we feel like giving up. But once again, we triumph. The fact is; the odds we face keeps us agile. Respect life but never let it weaken you. Mostly, life never wants to win over you. It only tries to make you stronger by keeping you engaged.
I am always looking to learn new things. I am also very discreet about it. I don’t believe in making noise about things I know. The whole idea of acquiring knowledge to use it for some advantage looks flawed to me. It seems like a transaction; to do something and get paid for it in some way. There needs to be a life beyond this trading. My learnings are for my own consumption. I don’t mind sharing but I don’t like soliciting people to seek my views. I don’t consider myself an expert. I like being a student. It keeps me hungry for more.
You have a choice. You can think about what others are doing wrong or you can focus on things you can do right. Take a simple test. Observe your thoughts for a day. You be the judge. Figure out how much time you spend thinking about other people and how much time you devote to yourself. Most people will be surprised. We focus a lot on others. Rather, pay attention to self. Become so much self obsessed that nothing else bothers you. Once you are satisfied with the time you give to yourself, you can do justice with the world too. Quench your thirst first and then you can feed the world too.
We must fight for something which is right. It is not going to be easy. Sometimes, the consequences could be difficult to handle. You may have to Many a times, distinguishing between the right and wrong is razor thin. Sometimes, you will lose. It’s alright. The important thing is to hear your inner voice. Some decisions are touch and go. A few times, taking sides of what is right is going to mean you will be fighting against yourself. It will test your morals. Not many people pass this test. It cannot be situational. If you have the courage to stand against yourself, you will end up being a winner.