Mistakes are not a problem. What is difficult is to accept them and take corrective steps. Many a times, I know I made a judgemental error or I was at fault but I do not agree to it infront of others. It comes to my mind that their good opinion about me will change. I want to maintain an impression that I am always right. It kills me. It creates anxiety all the time. It makes my response and behavior unnatural. I act protective of myself. I want get loose. I want to accept my mistakes and move on. I am trying.
There were people in history who did not get due credit for their contribution to mankind while they were alive. However, we have seen many instances where their work is acknowledged years and decades later. Sometimes, even centuries later. Good work cannot be suppressed forever. It’s just that some things take time to get noticed. And here we are. We want instant recognition and acknowledgment. Leave this part of when you get the credit for what you do. It will only result in anxiety. Rather, get busy in doing the good.
Champions are made of sweat, not luck. In rare cases when they are down under, they have a tendency to rise from the dust. They don’t leave anything to chance. They don’t believe in luck. They turn the tide in their favor by sheer hard work. At times, they will accept defeat but give no excuse. There are people who chase success and then there are champions who are different. Glory deserves them.
If you are good at what you do, you have a problem. People will expect more from you. Perfection is never final. There is always scope for improvement. And people who deliver results are expected to improve further. That’s how the world looks at performers. And that’s a good thing. It keeps you on your toes all the time. It makes you look at every aspect of your work more closely and fine tune it further. That’s how good people get better. So, if you want to become better, first become good at what you do.
In many people inner confidence is low and fear is high. Because of this they are not able to take bold decisions. This directly impacts their growth potential. Reckless decisions can hurt but indecision is the worst. Taking no risk is the biggest risk. A measured approach is necessary to get ahead in life. A few bad experience should not become a hindrance to taking more chances in life. A life of safety is a burden on self. Fear of failing is worse than failing itself. Beat the fear. Take the plunge.
It is said that the straight tree is cut first. Still, be straight. Yes, you will be the first to be penalized. You will be the first others will feast on. Still, be straight. What good it will be to become multifaceted. Even you won’t be able to recognize yourself. Either you can try and become the best you can be or you can remain under par for life so that no one bothers you. If you are the best, you will also have the most criticism. Learn to live with it. Know this; only a straight tree can reach the skies.
There is an advantage of living a private life. There is a lot of time. There is a lot of freedom. There is a difference between having no work and having a lot of time. The later is a result of personal choice. It comes from prioritising things at work, knowing what to let go, having a good team and an addiction to freedom of time. For some money is the definition of being rich. For some, having freedom of time is worth all the wealth in the world. What kind of wealth you have?
I have made a few bad calls in life. Everybody does. A few of them affects me. Even today. But that’s alright. I made a wrong judgement and I am paying a price. What bothers me more is that some of my decisions affected others negatively and I feel responsible for it. A kind of guilt exists in my mind. Unfortunately, there is little I can do about it now. I am not sure how long this will cause me pain but I definitely have learned a lesson. Never hurt others as it will eventually hurt self. I hope to be more measured in my decisions going forward.
Your name was not called and you are disappointed. Don’t take it to heart. All credit to the winners but it doesn’t mean you are less deserving. The world has a peculiar way to recognise people. A reward which motivates a few and disappoints many should not be the only barometer of success. Sometimes, sitting in the audience watching a houseful show curated by you is a bigger accomplishment than being on the stage.