Never ask for feedback from known people. Only a few will be honest. Rest will lack the courage to tell you on your face where you lacked. They will mostly be appreciative and you may take it on face value. It will make you complacent. The urge to improve will be stalled. Rather, you should watch closely about people’s reaction from a distance. Pat your back when you hear good feedback and look for every instance where people thought you needed improvement. It will hurt but will help you in the long term. Don’t ask for feedback. Look for it.
If revenge is not working, try forgiveness. Maybe, you will get relief. During our journey of life we get hurt many a times. We get unfair treatment from some people. We make it a point to take revenge at an appropriate time. Sometimes, that time never comes and we keep burning inside to get even with such people. It only makes our wound more painful. If this is what you are facing, you can do something that could fix the problem immediately. Forgive them. When you do this, you will get instant relief. What better medicine you can give to yourself. When you free the other person, you get free from your own pain.
Money spoils it. Making money is not a crime but being too much obsessed with it may affect the quality of work you can otherwise do. Passion and money may not be aligned. If you say what you do is your passion than you must take your eyes off money. Else, your work just remains a source of revenue. Now, this is tricky. If there is no money, passion may not run long. If you focus on money, passion is compromised. It is very difficult to create a fine balance between the two. If you can, you are lucky.
Achieving our dream is easy. Staying humble is the difficult part. Even if we are grounded in the beginning, with our rise we may leave the roots. It happens slowly. Overtime, we may even forget our basic principles. And we arrive. Fame, money and growth clouds our vision. Take pause if it’s happening with you. Hold your values. You will have to keep an eye on yourself. Nobody else will help you. Success is welcome. But if it leads to ego, it is worthless. Dream big. Achieve big. Stay humble.
If you can’t handle criticism, you are not fit to become successful. If you want to keep everyone happy, you are destined to fail. With success comes its own perils. There is a section of crowd which enjoys backbiting and will try to project a bad image of yours. They get a high by doing this. If you get in their trap, you will never be able to escape. Yet, there are people who will give useful feedback to improve. They will show you where you lack. Don’t get upset. Thank them and work on your weakness. It will help you grow further. Your fans are your asset. Even good critics are.
Vision is different from success. You need to decide at the beginning what you want. Whether you have a vision to transform something or your primary objective is name and fame. Maybe, you talk about vision but your intent is recognition and short term monetary benefits. If this is the case, it is not going to work for you. May be you will be called successful in a limited way but it will be far from achieving vision. Differentiating the two things is the starting point which will decide where you will reach.
Praise is like a drug. If consumed when needed and in right quantity, it helps. If you have it in excessive quantity, it can do more damage than good. Also, it is best when it comes from outside rather than self praise. When you tell your own story without being solicited, people get bored after a while. Yet, when people you impact and inspire speak about you, it spreads like wild fire. While it feels good to get appreciation, it is best to stay indifferent and focus on the good work you do. A little praise can get you going. A lot of it can make you still.
Some people are born to endure hardship and pain. Not that they haven’t witnessed happiness and good times but they are not the ones who get things easily. They have to navigate through life the hard way. They have to make an extra effort to make things straight. Still, they make no complains. They endure all this within. This continuous fight with circumstances also makes them strong. In a way, it is a blessing in disguise for them. They don’t want any sympathy. They deserve respect.
Many a times, we see the world from where we stand. We create a boundary in our mind. Take a step forward and your vision will multiply. When you grab an opportunity, you get many more. When you begin your journey you might have a destination in mind. As you walk through your way, many more options will come which you could never have imagined had you not taken the first step forward. Break your mindset. Free your vision. Explore. Move forward and an invisible force will lead the way.
I am not yet there. But I will be. Nobody bets on me. No one pays attention to my vision. At times, I feel so alone. Still, I am carrying on. I haven’t given up on my dream. The road ahead is long. Even if it takes my whole life, I will not stop. Maybe, things won’t work out. Still, I will dedicate my life towards something I believe in. Yes, it will be good to receive some support from others. It will make my journey a little easier. Any which way, I will not stop. People will clap once I reach the summit. But it won’t matter. What matters is; how many of them believe me today.
