Nobody helps you. You must help yourself. People are too busy with their own chores in life. Be interested in your own life. No one else will. Remember, even when you wish to help others, you are actually helping yourself. When you love someone else, you actually loving yourself. Be selfish. This is the only way you can become selfless.
Don’t give an excuse that you are alone. That’s all you need. Yourself. To change the circumstances around you. To change the world. Once you know this, you will find your power multiply. You will start seeing things differently. You will start taking responsibility. Once you do, you can change the future. See history. You will find behind all great revolution stood one ordinary man in the beginning. Don’t expect others to believe in you unless you do. It takes one man to make a difference. It is you.
The best way to manage your time is to say ‘no’ to unwanted activities. Cut down distractions. Don’t be a yes man to all to create impression. Take up few important things rather than many petty works. Plan your day in advance. Delegate. Do tight meetings. Cut time on commuting. Don’t always stretch in the evenings. Think about this; if you say no to one not so important meeting, you may be able to spend an additional hour with family. We all got 24 hours. Use it well.
Martin Luther King, Mahatma Gandhi and Mother Teresa. What’s common about all of them? They all dedicated their lives for a single cause. There are many others who are not known to us. Like that teacher in a remote village; whose sole purpose is to educate all the children in the village. Like that doctor; who left his successful practice in a big city, opens a clinic in a suburb to treat poor patients for free. Like that woman who rose from the daily chores of her house to spread awareness of STD in a red light area and fighting for the protection of sexually abused children. They all have a cause. What is your cause for living?
It’s your fight. You have to win it. No one else will do it for you. The best thing is that you don’t have to defeat anyone to win. You just have to beat your own benchmark. Once you do it, you need to set a higher benchmark and beat it again. That’s what you need to do. That’s what will make you proud of yourself. That’s what will make others inspired. That’s how you can change the world. You can’t stop. The game is on.
Life is not always about winning or losing. It’s about how you play the game. As John Wooden puts it “You can lose when you outscore somebody in a game. And you can win when you’re outscored.” So true. Play the game fair. Forget about the result. If you don’t win, it doesn’t mean you lose.
Don’t be realistic. Dream. Being realistic comes from past experience and achievements. Dreamers look into the unknown future. Being realistic is playing safe. Dreaming is the real play. It was unthinkable to run a mile under 4 minutes till Roger Bannister did it in 1954. After that it became realistic and hundreds of athlete have broken this record ever since. You will not find anyone in the record books who achieved realistic goals. It’s a place which is permanently reserved for dreamers. So, dream and then wake up to break the shackles of the real world to achieve your dream.
Don’t ever think that you are ordinary. Don’t let people tell you that you can’t do the big things. You are meant to achieve greatness. You have the power to become extraordinary. You just have to realise this. You just have to believe you can do it. Once you take the first step, just keep walking. Close your ears to the world. Listen to your own heart. It will guide you to the finish line.
Remember, the world recognises success only after it has been achieved, not before. When you set out on an ambitious journey many people will wish you success but somewhere they have a feeling that you will fail. You have to first believe yourself. Once you start and keep going without being fazed by what the world thinks, you will find you start travelling the road less travelled. It is then; the same world will look at you with surprise. When you still move forward and make your dream come true, the whole world will be amazed and the same people who once doubted your ability will come forward and take the credit by saying – ‘I knew he would do it’.
He was a respected man. He was an authority on the subject. But I had a difference of opinion on a point. We got into an arguement. He wouldn’t concede. I was not convinced. It went on and on. And then, I stopped. I stopped fighting. He smiled. I could see the pride of winning on his face. But he missed the point. I stopped not because I agreed. I stopped not because I was defeated or I lost. I silenced myself just because I wanted to hold his dignity higher than me.