Never give your opinion unless sought twice. Nobody is interested in your views. The first time they ask you could be a mere formality. Don’t treat it as if they mean it. Wait for them to seek your inputs again. Don’t just jump to share your thoughts. You must open your mouth only when they are serious and value your expertise. Also, speak to the point. You must be able to express your opinion in few words or else it will lose its effectiveness. People who know more, speak less.
You are looking for answers. There are none. Till the time you have questions, answers will remain elusive. Infact, you know it all but you don’t want to accept the reality. You want the solution to be as per your own convenience and suitability. Things are not as complicated as we make them. If we remove our own glasses, the vision will become crystal clear. We try to change everything to our liking. This is not possible. Rather, if we change the angle we can have a different view. Accepting an ill fate is not the idea but expecting everything to fall in place is the root cause of questions. Stop questioning. Start looking.
Self praise is a silent enemy of the soul. The urge to speak about ourselves is so high that we are unable to see the cry of the soul. The instant gratification we get from vanity is so tempting that we ignore the long term damage it does to innerself. Everyone wants to tell their stories but turn a deaf ear when others are talking. In essence, no one is listening. If we stop running this race we will end up winning. Eat your words. Add humility to your gestures. After a while, you will feel the music while the world will listen to your silence.
In the journey of life you will encounter many people who will be unreasonable toward you. You can either have a tit for tat approach or choose to forgive them. If you do not fight back you may be taken as weak. Still, it’s better to forgive and move ahead rather than being distracted from your focussed work and philosophy of life. Initially, it will be difficult. As you keep forgiving people it will become natural for you. You will become mentally tough. It will have another side effect. People who were critical of you will start becoming a fan of yours.
‘No’ is a powerful word if used properly. It can transform your life. If you are a ‘yes’ person, you may be liked by many but it’s not going to work well for you in the long term. You will burn out accommodating everyone. In fact, after a while, your ‘yes’ label will encourage people to take advantage of you. On the contrary, if you learn to say no and put your foot down at times; people won’t ever take you for granted. You will have more time for yourself. You can focus on what’s really important. It will make you stronger and ignore what the world thinks about you. Just a caution. Don’t over do it.
I used to have my own opinions and I felt very confident about them. I believed I had strong reasons behind my conviction. I used to put strong arguments and mostly win. However, things have changed. There were times when I realised I was wrong all the while. Many a times, when I encounter wise souls, I realise my arguments don’t hold water at all. I have accepted this with grace. Yesterday, I thought I was knowledgeable. Now, I feel ignorant. I don’t treat this as a defeat. I consider it to be enlightenment.
There is no other way. If you want to enjoy life, you need to cut your work hours. People say they enjoy their work and so why should they change their routine. Well, for few it could be right. For most , it is not. If your ever feel upset about not being able to play your favourite sport due to lack of time, or read that book on your wish list or sleep the whole day in laziness; you are not fully enjoying your work. Passionate people don’t feel the urge to do anything else or engage in any activity other than work. Time spent on work is a price you pay to enjoy the rest of time. Keep it that way.
It is normal to be weak at times. It is alright for tears to roll down your face. Do not worry if you become vulnerable at times. These are all qualities of a being a human. Trying to remain strong at all times, though you feel weak inside is a futile exercise. Infact, if you try to fake it, you will burn faster. Even winners lose sometimes. This doesn’t mean they are written off for ever. They come back stronger. That’s why they are called champions. Live natural. Do not pay much attention to how people will judge you. They anyways change their opinion every now and then. Let free your emotions. That’s what defines you.
Some people have a unique approach to life. They live every day and never plan ahead. Yet, tomorrow pans out as if designed with care. The world doesn’t know them. They classify into ‘nobody’ and yet, they are an inspiration to people around them. They don’t win awards and not among the who’s who of society. Yet, they have friends who die to be with them. They laugh without reason and yet, when someone is mourning they are the first who cry with them. They are not role models in public but still, there are many who want to be like them in private.
I don’t want to watch my deeds after I am gone. I want to make sure I do them right while I am alive. I don’t want to waste my time on earth looking for your approval for everything I do. I want to go with the flow as far as I take my conscience into confidence. I disapprove your punishment for any act of mine which you consider sinful. Rather, I would use my own rules and make my own judgement. I know you want my attention to your existence. However, I have a no choice but to ignore you if I were to find myself.