They think I am strong. What they don’t know is how vulnerable I am at times. They think I enjoy the crowd. What they don’t know is how alone I feel with people. They think I am perfect. What they don’t know is how hard I try to hide my imperfections. They think I am a role model. What they don’t know is that I am just a follower of someone who inspire me. They think I am a messenger of peace. What they don’t know is how many wars I have fought within. They think I own the world. What they don’t know is I am searching my soul.
A small improvement everyday eventually leads to dramatic results over time. The change that happens everyday may not even be felt because the incremental difference could be so small. But it works silently with the passage of time. A daily improved diet may not show results in a week but when continued, we can feel the difference in just a few months. Reading a few pages everyday may seem little but when the routine is followed, one can end up reading many books a year. A brick in itself may be weak but when combined with many, it can build an everlasting monument. Do a little extra, everyday.
Struggle is a part of everyone’s life, someway or the other. While it may be challenging when we are passing through the period of uncertainty, the memory of struggle gives a feeling of satisfaction once we cross that phase. Success without struggle is worthless. The sweat of labour smells the sweetest. Sometimes, when we see people working hard to make ends meet or running from pillar to post in the quest of finding a rightful place in the society, we feel sorry for them. Don’t do this; for they will relish this struggle the most when they become somebody, someday.
Some are busy criticizing everyone. Some are busy appreciating everyone. Some are busy crying for everything. Some are busy spreading smiles everywhere. Some are busy looking for sympathy. Some are busy giving a helping help. Some are busy fighting with the weak. Some are busy fighting for the weak. Some are busy dying every moment. Some are busy living every moment. The whole world is busy. The question is; what you are busy with?
There is no harm in setting big goals. Being ambitious is a good thing. Trouble starts when we start comparing ourselves with others. When our objective shifts from being happy to participating in a blind race of becoming better than the other person, it’s a matter to be worried about. No matter how fast we run, there would always be few people ahead in the race and it will always disappoint us. We mostly judge our own success and happiness from the eyes of others. That’s the problem. Rather, we should set our own benchmark of happiness. Even if we have to walk alone in that direction, the journey would be more satisfying.
Life takes many turns. The good thing is that, inspite of disappointments and hurts of the past, we learn to live in the present. The agony of the past may never go away but it definitely mellows down. Sometimes, we want to live with our pain and wish it never goes away. Even if life gives us hope and treats us fair in the present, we try to deny being happy. We do this to be loyal to our past. We live a dual life. We look for a good future and happiness ahead. Yet, we want to remain connected with our soul of the past. We listen to no one. This is our destiny and there is nothing wrong with this.
An anonymous life is so good. You can walk around the street peacefully with no one bothering you. You can make mistakes and no one cares. You can spend your time the way you want and no one is there to judge you. You are not supposed to give your views on issues you know nothing about. You are not subjected to comparison with other people because you are not in the list. You can watch the play and laugh rather than being the actor under stress to entertain the audience. Most importantly, being anonymous to the world will help you know yourself well.
A discussion is good. A debate can give new perspectives. There should be a fair opportunity for everyone to put across their views. Learning happens only when arguments are made for clarity and not just to impose superiority. It is pointless to communicate with people who keep on trying to prove their point. It is best to stay away from such people. It is a waste of time to engage in conversation with them. While we judge others, we must know; others are also judging us on the same parameter. Watch your words. Watch your intent.
Risk is over hyped. Safety is over played. The moment we decide to change the course of our life, the anticipated risk of unknown is broken into half. Risk plays a devil to those who are afraid of it and supports those who are friends with it. On the contrary, safety is a trap. It creates a boundary. It makes us so comfortable within it’s land that we never see the vastness of the universe beyond. Most people die without being aware of the opportunities just a few steps from the safety zone. Break the so called safety net. Only then you can reach the stars.
Everyday, things happen in our lives which causes distress and pain. We get hurt. It is natural to feel low during such times. There is an easy solution to handle such period of emotional loss. To reduce the severity of your everyday hurt, always compare it one event in your life which gave you the maximum pain. If you have survived that event and time, you will easily pass through every little hurt here and there. When you do this, you will be surprised how quickly you can overcome your pain. Learning not to make every issue a big one requires mental toughness. Learning to be happy requires you to keep your hurt aside.