Read history. Live in the present. Travel the world. Live in oblivion. Cry in people’s pain. Laugh at yourself. Eat less. Workout a little more. Throw your suit. Go on a drive. Sell your ego. Buy peace. Snooze the alarm. Sleep a little more. Cut your work. Be with family. Listen more. Speak a little less. Bunk a meeting. Meet a friend. Kill routine. Live a life.
Take a sabbatical from self promotion. If at all you have to talk about yourself, keep it subtle. When people underestimate you don’t correct them with words. Let your actions speak. When people misunderstand you and you don’t get an opportunity to clarify, let it pass and forget it. If you are worth the salt they will get your point later. It may so happen that you never get due credit for your work. Still, keep your head down keep doing the good work. Oblivion is a better place than solicited acknowledgement.
Some people get a head start. This could be because of their family background, right connects, education or luck. It helps them to move faster. This doesn’t mean others don’t stand a chance. Over long periods, hard work compounds faster than head start. So, if you think you will remain behind because you are late, you are wrong. You just need to keep going. One fine day you will suddenly find yourself leading the pack.
Whenever I had a personal goal in life, I deferred it. I accumulated all of them for later. God knows what kept me busy all these years. It seems I woke up late. Unfortunately, with the passage of time many of the aspirations will remain a wish. Even if I spend the rest of my life, I may fall short of achieving them. I made a bad trade-off. I am realising late. That’s why I called it a day and went aloof to the happenings in the world. Today, my priority is myself. Finally, I guess this is a good trade-off.
It requires will power. It requires determination. It requires patience. It requires self belief. When you choose your own journey, you will be warned by many. When you stop listening to them, you will be labeled as egoistic. When you stumble a bit, you will be laughed upon. When you still march ahead, they will call you crazy. When you discover a new path, they will see you in disbelief. When you don’t stop, they will start following.
Everyone is propogating to live a balanced life. It has become a fashion statement of the century. Sometimes I am confused about what balancing means. I think having a balance is a myth and unachievable. I guess, we must have priorities. The thing is; priority and balance run in opposite direction. When you have priorities you can’t have balance. Priority means living in extremes. For eg. you can’t have a perfect work life balance. You must prioritise one over the other. It seems outrageous but a truth.
I know the secret of happy life but I live a stressful one. The only reason I am in constant struggle is my competition with the world. People ahead of the game motivate me but the urge to go past them is making my life hell. In public I say I don’t compete with anyone but that’s a blatant lie. I appreciate successful people on their face but in my mind I am devising a strategy to beat them. I have all the ingredients in the right proportion to enjoy my meal but the excessive salt of competition is making my food worthless.
An average person criticizes others. Wise men do self introspection. Fools know everything. Men of intellect are always inquisitive. Failures give advice. Successful people look for guidance. Fearful people are always doubtful. Courageous men step into the unknown. Lazy people give excuses for inaction. Active men find reasons to act. Everyone thinks he is on the right side of the equation. Half of them are not. Think again.
When you think of building something large and meaningful, the initial few thoughts could be overwhelming. You will feel excited and doubtful at the same time. While your idea will seem workable to you, you will get bouts of negativity as to why no one ever did it. All this is very natural. Don’t be perturbed. Go ahead with your plan. A challenging assignment will bring out the best in you. A little uncertainty will keep you on your toes. Be flexible. A full proof plan is seldom successful.
There will always be options available to you. When you choose one, the other would seem better. It’s almost a rule. Still, you must choose and choose fast. Once you close your options, don’t think too much about the other option, because if you would have chosen the second option, the first would then seem to be better. Our mind is tuned to regret the moment we make a choice. Re-program it not to feel so. If you make a choice, own it.