The struggle exists only till we don’t know what we want. When we are doubtful about our goals, there is lack of sharpness in our action. When our vision is not clear, our conviction falters. When our aspirations change every now and then, it becomes difficult to choose a way. The problem is not that we can’t achieve what we want. The challenge is to fix what we desire. Once we know what we are looking for, we have already covered half the distance.
We are obsessed with our innovation, expertise, skills and knowledge. We live in a competitive world and so we want to keep it a closely guarded secret. We want to monetise it to the maximum. There is nothing wrong with it. However, at some point of time we need to let go of our control and share our expertise with the world more freely. If God has choosen us to have special skills, we must pass it on to others before we pass this world. The ultimate objective must be to leave this world a better place than we inherited. It’s not a matter a choice. It’s an obligation to our forefathers who gave us a better place to live than they inherited and we need to carry on the tradition.
Finally. I have made the discovery. The reason for stress is time. I do everything by the watch. Eating, working, sleeping; everything runs by the clock. Because there is a clock, there is no time. Even if I ignore it, others remind me of it’s existence and dependability. Everything is measured in time. They say time is money. They say to be on time shows character. All this puts me more under pressure to use it well. The more I use it, the less I live. Before I could enjoy my freedom, I became a slave of time.
Nobody likes to fall but there is a silver-lining when we hit the lowest point. We can’t fall any further. When we are at the bottom, the next thing that can happen is that we rise from there. Yes, it is difficult to remain motivated when it seems that everything is lost. It is challenging to have faith that things will improve when nothing seems to be going our way. Still, we must know that dark clouds do not exist for ever and the sun shines the brightest after the dark night.
A simple way to live a great life is to make good choices as and when we have to. This way we won’t require to plan anything for tomorrow and make strategies for distant future. We make several choices every day. The easiest way to cruise well is to make a good choice every time we come across a decision. Offering a seat to an elderly person in a train, replacing two cubes of sugar with one in your evening tea, saying sorry instantly rather than sticking to ego are good examples. These choices might seem small at the time we make them but will compound very quickly. A great life starts with a good choice.
There are just two things we need to learn and do. Feed our mind with good stuff and keep our body fit. That’s all. We need not worry about other things like success, society, recognition, future, etc. Everything will fall in place. If for some reason we think something is missing, a good mind and health will get us through. If we are able to attain wisdom everything else will seem unworthy of attention. If we are able to maintain good health, we will be able to enjoy the fruits of wisdom longer.
We all have a personality. We may have inherited it or created it sub-consciously. Some of us are aggressive by nature. Some are defensive. Some are extroverts. Some are introverts. Some live life king-size. Some like to remain anonymous. We sometimes become judgemental about others behavior, unhappy with our own personality or try to change the nature and preference of people who are very close to us. Well, it may not be the right thing to do. The world is full of happy and successful people of all type of personalities. It’s better to work on areas rather than change the core of your existence.
Struggle is good. It precedes innovation and discovery. When we are struggling with our pain, we eventually discover news ways of handling it as life has to go on. When we are struggling with finding our place in the world, it eventually leads to building a newer world where we fit in. When we struggle to find a purpose in life, it eventually leads to knowing a little more about ourself. Struggle is good. It gives us new perspectives. It makes us stronger.
Everyone is busy. Everyone is doing something. Yet, few are able to achieve meaningful success. Few get unprecedented rewards and recognition. This is because few know the difference between doing things and doing big things. Few know the difference between having an idea and executing the idea. Big talks achieve little without action. There is no point harping upon how busy we are. The important thing is whether we are engaged in something unique, creative and impactful. Under achievers give excuse of not having time. High performers are busy using their time well.
The mantra to grow exponentially, personally or professionally, is to get engaged in an activity through which you can reach and create a meaningful impact to a large audience. If you develop a product, make sure it reaches to millions. If you happen to serve others, make sure your organization has no geographical limits. If you are teaching your skills, make sure you scale it up beyond a few. Don’t think about short term revenue or success. When you touch lives of a large number of people, you will eventually be rewarded with compounding effect.