For years, I have faced a dilemma. To impress people or to do the right thing.
People around me had expectations that I should act in a way which is always favorable to them. Many a times, their expectations were not in sync with my philosophy and belief. It used to put me in a fix as to how I make them happy and yet do not compromise on my integrity and comfort. It was never easy and I will admit that there have been times I did things to make them happy and to gain their appreciation. It surely made me a lot of friends and I enjoyed their company too as I got a fair share of their attention.
However, after the incidence I used to feel miserable and have guilt of doing something which I myself did not approve. I was losing my own identity in front of myself. It was not worth it and I reached a point where I decided to take control. It took me time but I started acting with courage and more responsibility without being influenced by shallow relationships.
It was surprising in the beginning that those who used to flock around me disappeared. Some people even bad mouthed me and raised fingers at me. It was tough to pass this phase but I remained strong in my judgement. My perseverance paid rich dividends. Over time, people around me started taking note of my actions which were based on integrity, long term results and most importantly, the right thing to do. I started making friends never to lose them again.
Ever since when people ask me what I do, I respond by saying – ‘I make short term enemies but long term friends’.
